It takes a certain level of narcissism to believe you should have a hand in the running of a major world power. But there is a very important difference between healthy and unhealthy narcissism. Healthy narcissism is a real and valuable trait. We all need to feel loved, important, and powerful in our lives to a certain degree. In general, …
The Mixed Blessing of Adult Coloring Books
Adult coloring books can help with relaxation – or pave the way to avoidance of the real problem. What should you be aware of about the benefits and potential pitfalls of this beautiful, soothing outlet? Back in 2008, when I was having a health issue that was going to require surgery, I was grateful to have accumulated a number of …
Defeat Your Snooze Button, and Triumph Over Your Whole Day
What you and your brain need to know about hitting the snooze button – it’s not just a waste of time. Consider these facts about sleep and snoozing when you’re waking up tomorrow, and give yourself the chance for a better start every day. “I’ll just hit snooze one more time.” Nine minutes, fifteen minutes… whatever the length of your …
Attached at the Hippocampus – First Love, Later Love
Why do psychologists always want to dig around in your childhood? Shouldn’t it be more like, “That was then, this is now”? Isn’t it supposed to be “live in the moment, don’t blame your parents for everything that’s wrong, keep calm and carry on”? The thing is, though, that even from a brain-wiring perspective, your first experiences with love and relationships—those …
Solicitation, Mad Men, and Psychologists
Like any business, my office gets contacted by companies who offer help with marketing. Unlike most other businesses, psychologists have special obligations, responsibilities, and professional ethical standards for how they let the public know about their services. Even a basic listing in the phone book used to be prohibited. It wasn’t until 1972 that psychologists were allowed to advertise at all. …
Mettā Practice
The meditation practice described below is called a mettā practice. Mettā translates roughly as “loving-kindness” from Pāli (a Sanskrit dialect). It’s one way to help yourself break out of the “autopilot” of self- (and other- ) criticism – the unconstructive kind. In this mettā practice, you’re going to be practicing the intention for well-being in yourself, then going through a list of …
Brain Myths for $400, Alex
It’s great when brain science goes mainstream – understanding how our brains work goes a long way in living better lives. There’s a problem, though, when brain science goes bad. Or at least, when lots of people get it wrong, and brain myths trample reality. As a culture, we’re paying more and more attention to the brain, wanting to understand it, talking …
Basic Mindfulness Practice Intro – Audio Download
Interested in improving how your brain works, prune old unhelpful pathways, and change how you feel, how you “do” your feelings, and even your relationships? I’ve created a basic introduction to mindfulness practice that you can download for free. I hope you’ll take a little time to read why I think this is important, as a neuropsychologist and a rabid fan …
Optimizing Your Brain: 22 Ways to Hack That Fabulous Blob
The brain’s the thing. It’s a gloppy collection of staggering numbers of neurons and other stuff, made up mostly of water, that can’t support its own weight if you put it on a table (which I don’t recommend). The fluid that supports it in your skull is about the same density as the brain itself. In short: It’s delicate, unbelievably …
Fair and Accurate Insurance Reimbursement for Psychotherapy
Getting the information you need to get fair and accurate insurance reimbursement for psychotherapy can be confusing — here’s a guide with the facts and steps you can take to be sure you’re a well-informed consumer, and a strong advocate for yourself. I’ve written this guide to help you get the information you need from your insurance company to get …