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The Magic Moment | Rewiring Your Brain

From one of my favorite meditation teachers, Sharon Salzburg.  Sharon posted this on her Facebook page, and I thought I’d share it here as well. “Though a convention, a new year can mark new beginnings, bringing thoughts of forgiveness and starting over. This is about meditation (and life) from Real Happiness: The moment you realize you’ve been distracted is the …

TED Video: Sebastian Seung: I am my connectome

DISCLAIMER: I am many things, but I am not a poet. What follows is not a poem. I have too much respect for poetry and poets to even remotely suggest that this is a poem. I am the collection of my genetic potential, expressed by my genes into an impossibly intricate web of neurons which communicate by neural activity, which …

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Four Ways to Respond During An Argument

How to give your brain a fighting chance in an argument. From your nervous system’s point of view, there are a fairly limited number of ways to respond to an argument. You can find yourself in one of the knee-jerk reactions such as fight, flight, or freeze. You can roar and bite, you can run like hell, you can freeze …

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12 Tips for Mindful Resolutions, Healthier Relationships, and a Rewired Brain

From my perspective, having a full, authentic life is about having healthy, vibrant relationships — your relationship with yourself, with others you know, with the world at large, and/or with something greater, if that suits you. Without relationships, there can’t be much else. So how do you make changes in how you do your relationships? What behavioral psychologists know is …

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Nine Ways That a Meditating Brain Creates Better Relationships

It’s never too late to have a (brain that’s wired as if it had a) happy childhood1 Therapists get this question a lot: “Okay, so now that I understand how my history made me a mess when it comes to relationships, what now? It’s not like I can go back in time and change my childhood.” The “what now” is …

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Change Your Brain, Change the World

Have you heard the one about the monk, the neuroscientist, and the tax-evading poet? The Dalai Lama was in Washington, DC a few days ago, meeting with world-class neuroscientists, national leaders and policy-makers on education, and advanced contemplatives, one of whom has been dubbed the Happiest Man in the World. And I got to watch. Admittedly, I attended with an agenda: …

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Fire That Judge: Moving Your Brain Towards Love

Can firing the judge in your brain improve your chances at love? We all know that being judgmental isn’t a relationship-enhancer. And still, most of us step into that trap, doing damage to our relationships and friendships on a stubbornly regular basis. How about knocking that judge out with a one-two punch — taking the latest neuroscientific findings about the …

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The Toothpaste-Tube Wars: Relationship Battles and the Brain

Tame your “wild and precious” amygdala a bit, and have fewer relationship wars. A friend of mine calls them “The Toothpaste Tube Wars.” In some households, it’s the “Battle of the Toilet Seat” or the “Why-on-Earth-Do-You-Load-the-Dishwasher-Like-That Police Action.” They start with a small skirmish over something minor, and quickly escalate into a heated battle. Over. And. Over. Again. We can …