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12 Tips for Mindful Resolutions, Healthier Relationships, and a Rewired Brain

How do you make changes in how you do your relationships? What psychologists know is that making changes — and keeping resolutions — needs to be broken down into small, achievable, and measurable steps. The same rules apply to rewiring your brain for healthier relationships. Here are twelve tips for getting there. From my perspective, having a full, authentic life is …
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Nine Ways That a Meditating Brain Creates Better Relationships

It’s never too late to have a (brain that’s wired as if it had a) happy childhood1 When I first learned about these benefits of mindfulness meditation, I was stunned (and at first, skeptical) that something so simple could make such inroads with the challenges of finding and creating healthy relationships. But take a look at these benefits! Therapists get …
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Change Your Brain, Change the World

Have you heard the one about the monk, the neuroscientist, and the tax-evading poet? The Dalai Lama was in Washington, DC a few days ago, meeting with world-class neuroscientists, national leaders and policy-makers on education, and advanced contemplatives, one of whom has been dubbed the Happiest Man in the World. And I got to be there. Admittedly, I attended with an …
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Fire That Judge: Moving Your Brain Towards Love

Can firing the judge in your brain improve your chances at love? Being judgmental isn’t a relationship-enhancer. And still, most of us step into that trap, doing damage to our relationships on a stubbornly regular basis. Knock that judge out with a one-two punch — using the latest neuroscientific findings about the brain and judgments. We all know that being …
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What if nothing’s happening when I meditate?

What about those inevitable meditation sessions when it seems especially tedious, or boring, or like you can’t “get into it”? The good news is that important changes are still happening in your brain. “Oh, yeah, wow, now I get it, that was amazing!” After meditating a few times, you might have a session where you feel something special, or where …

Taming the Wild Amygdala…and compassionately breaking emotional habits

A friend of mine calls them “The Toothpaste Tube Wars.” In some households, they’re the “Battle of the Toilet Seat” or the “Why-on-Earth-Do-You-Load-the-Dishwasher-Like-That Police Action.” They start with a small skirmish over something minor, and quickly escalate into a heated battle. Over. And. Over. Again. We can get so caught up in emotional habits — like getting all worked up …