Why do psychologists always want to dig around in your childhood? Shouldn’t it be more like, “That was then, this is now”? Isn’t it supposed to be “live in the moment, don’t blame your parents for everything that’s wrong, keep calm and carry on”? The thing is, though, that even from a brain-wiring perspective, your first experiences with love and relationships—those …
Solicitation, Mad Men, and Psychologists
Like any business, my office gets contacted by companies who offer help with marketing. Unlike most other businesses, psychologists have special obligations, responsibilities, and professional ethical standards for how they let the public know about their services. Even a basic listing in the phone book used to be prohibited. It wasn’t until 1972 that psychologists were allowed to advertise at all. …
Mettā Practice
The meditation practice described below is called a mettā practice. Mettā translates roughly as “loving-kindness” from Pāli (a Sanskrit dialect). It’s one way to help yourself break out of the “autopilot” of self- (and other- ) criticism – the unconstructive kind. In this mettā practice, you’re going to be practicing the intention for well-being in yourself, then going through a list of …
Brain Myths for $400, Alex
It’s great when brain science goes mainstream – understanding how our brains work goes a long way in living better lives. There’s a problem, though, when brain science goes bad. Or at least, when lots of people get it wrong, and brain myths trample reality. As a culture, we’re paying more and more attention to the brain, wanting to understand it, talking …
Basic Mindfulness Practice Intro – Audio Download
Interested in improving how your brain works, prune old unhelpful pathways, and change how you feel, how you “do” your feelings, and even your relationships? I’ve created a basic introduction to mindfulness practice that you can download for free. I hope you’ll take a little time to read why I think this is important, as a neuropsychologist and a rabid fan …
Optimizing Your Brain: 22 Ways to Hack That Fabulous Blob
The brain’s the thing. It’s a gloppy collection of staggering numbers of neurons and other stuff, made up mostly of water, that can’t support its own weight if you put it on a table (which I don’t recommend). The fluid that supports it in your skull is about the same density as the brain itself. In short: It’s delicate, unbelievably …
Fair and Accurate Insurance Reimbursement for Psychotherapy
Getting the information you need to get fair and accurate insurance reimbursement for psychotherapy can be confusing — here’s a guide with the facts and steps you can take to be sure you’re a well-informed consumer, and a strong advocate for yourself. I’ve written this guide to help you get the information you need from your insurance company to get …
Sleep, light, your electronic devices, and melatonin
Melatonin, a naturally occurring hormone related to sleep, needs to be released a few hours before bedtime. In a “natural” situation (one without artificial lights), daylight wanes, melatonin is secreted, and a couple of hours later, you’re drowsy and ready to sleep. Not only does bright light in the evening make it hard for melatonin release, light in the blue end of …
Your Baby SHOULDN’T Read
Why early reading – let alone from a DVD – is a lousy deal for babies (Originally published May 27, 2010) Most often, the bottom-line reason people find their way to my psychotherapy practice is because of relationship issues — struggling marriages, unsuccessful dating, lousy relationships with family and/or coworkers — and of course, their relationships with themselves are also …
Rewire Your Brain for Healthy Empathy: Acquire a Voltmeter
Understanding your brain when it comes to feeling empathy can lead to understanding your partner, spouse, and even your boss better. Read on to learn about rewiring your brain for healthy, balanced empathy. In “rewiring your brain for love,” one of the benefits of mindfulness practice when it comes to relationships could be thought of as acquiring a voltmeter — that quality of empathy …